Bye Buddy

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It’s been a little over a week since we said goodbye to our beloved dog Buddy. A 10 year old Cavalier King Charles Spaniel. Who would have ever thought that a dog weighing less than 20 pounds could fill our lives with so much love and joy?

After he was gone the first thing we noticed was the overwhelming silence. No scratching on the bedroom door in the morning. No sound of his padded paws on the hardwood floors. No snoring during episodes of Modern Family and Walking Dead. Even more than sound, he filled the house with unconditional love. The past nine days have been a rollercoaster of emotion. Great joy intermixed with unimaginable sadness.

This experience taught me there is a very fine line between joy and sorrow. In honor of Buddy, my daughter Cayla made the following FB post,

“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”
― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

There is a very fine line between joy and sorrow.

We mourn the loss of our friend and yet through the tears we find ourselves smiling as we remember his adorable face and silly antics.

There is a very fine line between joy and sorrow.

It happens with pets and it happens with our children. Caryn and I will mourn when our last child heads off to college and yet though the tears we will smile with pride knowing our children are on a path to becoming the people God has in mind.

There is a very fine line between joy and sorrow.

It happens with pets and it happens with neighbors. I will mourn leaving Todd and Ruth; our neighbors for 25 years. Yet through the tears I will smile remembering every day talking with Todd over the fence. Like the time I said some unkind words at a family gathering WHILE THE BABY MONITOR WAS ON! Todd was the first person I confessed to and laughed with. I will miss the Meyers and the “refrigerator rights” we gave to one another.

There is a very fine line between joy and sorrow.

It happens with pets and it happens with disciples. Jesus shared these words preparing them for his departure.

John 15 9 “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. 10 If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. 11 I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. 12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

There is a very fine line between joy and sorrow.

I can only imagine the sorrow Jesus felt knowing he was leaving the people he loved, suffering an unimaginable death, and watching the one he loved desert him. And yet he knew that his sacrifice would secure their place in eternity. He knew his sacrifice would demonstrate God’s unimaginable and unforgettable love for them. And in suffering for the sake of others, Jesus’ joy would be complete.

And he suggested if we love others like he loved us our joy would be complete. Maybe that’s why there is a fine line between joy and sorrow.

  • Whenever we do something for the sake of others, the sorrow of losing them turns to joy remembering the opportunity we had to LOVE THEM.
  • Whenever someone does something for our sake, the sorrow of losing them turns to joy remembering how they LOVED US.

There is a very fine line between joy and sorrow. And that fine line is the love; the love we share and the love we receive. 

May the line between your joys and sorrows remain thin. May your joys and sorrows be stitched together with love.

For those who weep and mourn, may you be constantly aware of God’s fine line … love!

Amen?

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3 Responses to Bye Buddy

  1. Graham says:

    Beautiful Mark. I’m so sorry for your loss. I loved seeing Buddy at your door watching us as we would approach. He was a good dog.

    I remember losing my cat back in 2011. She lived a happy 17.5 years and it wasn’t easy. Allyson and I dred the day when we have to say goodbye to Roxy but are thankful everyday that we have the opportunity to love her.

  2. Barbara says:

    so beautiful made me cry so true ❤️

  3. Eugene Anderson says:

    Thank you so much…. It has been 2 weeks since I had to put Trogdor to sleep because of an aggressive mouth cancer. He was a golden retriever. He was our fur-child for 10 years as well. He passed away peacefully w/o pain. But to love deeply is to hurt deeply; I tell myself this, and it still hurts!
    Sincerely, Gene Anderson

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